Hooligans Don't Fall in LoveGoddammit, everyone and their brother has already posted this NYTimes article about lying and secrets. But psychologists say that most normal adults are well equipped to start a secret life, if not to sustain it. The ability to hold a secret is fundamental to healthy social development, they say, and the desire to sample other identities - to reinvent oneself, to pretend - can last well into adulthood. And in recent years researchers have found that some of the same psychological skills that help many people avoid mental distress can also put them at heightened risk for prolonging covert activities....Results of a little search I did: Men hate secrets. Everyone loves secrets! Posted by Dana at 11:18 AM
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Mi Vida ChochaPeople lie???
Holy. Shit.
Posted by: Fes at January 11, 2005 03:50 PMA better story might be the propensity for men to totally snitch out on themselves. Dudes: if you are doing something that your social equilibrium might be disrupted were the wrong people to find out? DON'T TELL ANYONE. Especially, say, your wife's best friend's husband. You idiot.
And, while your guilt might prompt you to come clean and admit all? Don't. Sure, it makse you feel good, but it totally fucks over the people you tell. Suck it up, be a mensch and keep the extracurricular pervo shit to yourself, stud.
Posted by: Fes at January 11, 2005 03:55 PMthe desire to sample other identities - to reinvent oneself, to pretend - can last well into adulthood. And in recent years researchers have found that some of the same psychological skills that help many people avoid mental distress can also put them at heightened risk for prolonging covert activities....
This describes blogging at work pretty well.
I'm reinventing myself... avoiding mental distress (i.e., work)... and prolonging covert activities.
Posted by: Max at January 12, 2005 05:52 PM